One thing I’ve come to realize more and more in our society, is our tendency to intervene all the time in everything, for the sake of the intervention. Things are being changed, teams are being shuffled, plans are being remade, … all the time, especially with a new-comer.
It’s been quite a long time since a book changed or challenged so much of the things I believed in, and this is exactly what Antifragile has done on an unbelievable amount of levels (politics, health, work, ethics, …).
At 29 years old, I realized I was a reader, meaning that I was understanding things in a clearer way when reading them instead of listening to them. This might appear quite simple, but this really helped me understand a lot of things about myself.
For a decade now and with a surprising increase during the last years, I tend to encounter a lot of words used without any interest for their basic definition, thinking only about creating or increasing some ”wow” factor. Those words I keep seeing? Exclusivity, Groundbreaking, Revolutionary, Unique, Innovation, …
This book felt like an endless streak of slaps in the face, presenting every bias one might have. I think I might have checked all of them, even the one I didn’t think I had. It does a really good job in explaining our common bias by providing solid links to scientific studies and real life examples that we can all relate too.
It’s funny how this simple thing has eluded me for so many years (and still eludes me from time to time). Something as simple as saying “no”,“I won’t”, “I can’t”. I’ve spent so many years running after time, saying yes all the time, abiding to things I didn’t want to do, investing energy I didn’t have, forcing myself to be someone I wasn’t or to do things that only pulled me down further.
2016 was quite a rollercoaster year on many parts. I’m grateful for several things that happened in my life, but I must admit that I let myself slip quite a bit while enjoying only the good things without taking some time to keep on improving myself. While in 2015 I succeeded at losing a lot of weight and establish a daily routine, I let myself slip during 2016, something I wanted to get back on.
So I’ve set up this blog again. Which might seems strange looking at how many times I’ve blogged, removed, blogged again, removed, … without finding any way to really ”get it”. Most of it had to do with the division between my professional and personal life that happened in the past, searching my way wasn’t easy so I went here and there.
Like a lot of people, I woke up the 9th of November facing a global headache. A headache we could have seen coming, which has slowly built outside of our bubbles, just next to it in fact. Those talks, remarks, “jokes” that slowly built throughout the years and that we have all heard during our family or friends gathering, …
I’ve always felt a bit distant from the LGBT world, felt like I didn’t fit in, that it wasn’t a place for me at all. But I came to think, thanks to the book Quiet by Susan Cain, that the main problem I have with the LGBT world is that it’s entirely aimed toward extroverts. I’ve never been the party kind or things like that (which has always sounded a bit weird to most of my friends…), but even in gay bars do I find it difficult.