Reframing our window

For a decade now and with a sur­pris­ing increase dur­ing the last years, I tend to encoun­ter a lot of words used with­out any inter­est for their basic def­i­n­i­tion, think­ing only about cre­at­ing or increas­ing some ”wow” fac­tor. Those words I keep see­ing? Exclusivity, Groundbreaking, Revolutionary, Unique, Innovation, … 

 

Reading Notes : You’re Not So Smart

This book felt like an end­less streak of slaps in the face, pre­sent­ing every bias one might have. I think I might have checked all of them, even the one I didn’t think I had. It does a real­ly good job in explain­ing our com­mon bias by pro­vid­ing solid links to sci­en­tific stud­ies and real life exam­ples that we can all relate too.

 

Learning to say no

It’s fun­ny how this sim­ple thing has elud­ed me for so many years (and still eludes me from time to time). Something as sim­ple as say­ing “no”,“I won’t”, “I can’t”. I’ve spent so many years run­ning after time, say­ing yes all the time, abid­ing to things I didn’t want to do, invest­ing ener­gy I didn’t have, forc­ing myself to be some­one I wasn’t or to do things that only pulled me down fur­ther.

 

A better version of me

2016 was quite a roller­coast­er year on many parts. I’m grate­ful for sev­er­al things that hap­pened in my life, but I must admit that I let myself slip quite a bit while enjoy­ing only the good things with­out tak­ing some time to keep on improv­ing myself. While in 2015 I suc­ceed­ed at los­ing a lot of weight and estab­lish a dai­ly rou­tine, I let myself slip dur­ing 2016, some­thing I want­ed to get back on.

 

There and back again

So I’ve set up this blog again. Which might seems strange look­ing at how many times I’ve blogged, removed, blogged again, removed, … with­out find­ing any way to real­ly ”get it”. Most of it had to do with the divi­sion between my pro­fes­sion­al and per­son­al life that hap­pened in the past, search­ing my way wasn’t easy so I went here and there.

 

Turn on the light

Like a lot of peo­ple, I woke up the 9th of November fac­ing a glob­al headache. A headache we could have seen com­ing, which has slow­ly built out­side of our bub­bles, just next to it in fact. Those talks, remarks, “jokes” that slow­ly built through­out the years and that we have all heard dur­ing our fam­i­ly or friends gath­er­ing, …

 

Introverts in a world of rainbow extroversion

I’ve always felt a bit dis­tant from the LGBT world, felt like I didn’t fit in, that it wasn’t a place for me at all. But I came to think, thanks to the book Quiet by Susan Cain, that the main prob­lem I have with the LGBT world is that it’s entire­ly aimed toward extro­verts. I’ve nev­er been the par­ty kind or things like that (which has always sound­ed a bit weird to most of my friends…), but even in gay bars do I find it dif­fi­cult.